I spend a lot of my time encouraging students and leaders to focus on self reflection in order to be more self aware and define their values, purpose, and what really matters in life beyond the superficial and materialism.

Every once in a while, someone sends me a copy of what this all means to them. To state the obvious, there is no one way to do this, and the values and areas of focus will be different for each person.

Here is a note I received from a good friend last week that I have read several times. It has really helped my personal self reflection:

Hi Harry, I thought I would share this with you. A tab from my “life excel doc.” You can see the influence from reading your books and being raised by my parents 🙂


  • I don’t use tobacco or Nicotine products (occasional cigar or pipe)
  • I only drink alcohol in Moderation-socially (guiding principles: 0-2 drink max)
  • I go to Sunday Mass
  • I go to monthly Confession
  • I tithe my money each year
  • I don’t lust after women, they are my sisters in Christ
  • I don’t take advantage of people, I love them
  • I have a positive impact on the world, I am one of “those guys”
  • I don’t use foul language, I honor God by my speech and example
  • I am a man of integrity (I do not cheat and I play above board)
  • I am open to and seek opportunities to create a positive experience and generate high value in the lives of others 🙂
  • Relationships are the most valuable thing: with God, family, friends, others
  • I know myself and steer clear of overly dangerous situations where I may lose self control
  • I form connected and Christ-centered relationships with others (whether they know it or not 🙂 )


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